Even for non Christians, a couple confronting or facing a challenge together is assured of being more effective and quicker in sorting out the matter and consequently achieving a comprehensive victory than when it is only one of them going through the challenging time alone.
The saying that two heads are better than one is always true after all.
There is something about agreement prayer that releases tremendous spiritual power which may not be easily available in an individual prayer. There are great benefits of praying together with your spouse in marriage.
Matthew 18:19 says: “Again I say to you that if two of you agree on earth concerning anything that they ask, it will be done for them by My Father in heaven.”
Right from the days of Adam and Eve in the bible (Genesis 3:1-6), the family setting has been a major target of the enemy. Even the devil knows that there are great and tremendous benefits of praying together with your spouse. The importance of praying together and the tremendous power inherent in it is supported by various biblical passages. in Deuteronomy 32:20, the bible confirms that while one person can deal with a thousand enemies, two people united in the battle can roundly deal with ten thousand.
My husband in analysing this passage usually says that based on the trinity principle of christian marriage, a couple praying together actually prevails over more than ten thousand. Look at it this way: a couple when confronting enemies in prayer is not doing so alone. They are doing that with heavenly hosts including angels. According to 2 Kings 19:35 and Isaiah 37:36, an angel of God can kill at least 185,000 enemies in a night. When you do a simple calculation, it means that a couple praying together can roundly deal with at least 195,000 enemies!!!!.
Also the bible says in Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 that: “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
So much power and rewards awaits couple that prays together!!!!
Marriage makes two different individuals to be one. The unity in marriage is the highest form of unity ever! This involves unity of body, mind, soul and spirit. This kind of overall unity is attainable only in marriage. For marriages to struggle less and flourish more, couples need to realize and maximize the tremendous spiritual power and benefits of praying together with your spouse in marriage.
WHAT TO PRAY ABOUT:
- Thanksgiving and Praise: Thank God for the various manifested and yet to manifest blessings.
- Pray about common and mutual challenges
- Pray about individual challenges
ATTITUDE TO PRAYER:
When praying together with your spouse in marriage, tenacity and persistence is required for maximum benefits.
The bible says in Matthew 7:7-8 (Amp.):
“Ask and keep on asking and it will be given to you; seek and keep on seeking and you will find; knock and keep on knocking and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who keeps on asking receives, and he who keeps on seeking finds, and to him who keeps on knocking, it will be opened.”
In the above scripture, “Asking” means praying about it. “Seeking” means continuous positive confession of what you pray and being mindful (mind full) of it (not anxious). While “Knocking” means acting or implementation of actions outwardly based on received instructions from God.
When the Asking, Seeking, and Knocking aspects of prayer are effectively utilized consistently by the couples in praying together, positive results are sure and inevitable!
As you pray, be steadfast and consistent with your expectation of positive changes in your marriage. However, be open minded to receive instructions from God and be flexible to effect and implement changes in your attitude and other life aspects in order to achieve the expected end result of positive change.
BENEFITS OF PRAYING TOGETHER WITH YOUR SPOUSE IN MARRIAGE:
Here are some benefits of praying together with your spouse:
- Praying together with your spouse breeds humility in you: Humility, which is having a modest or low view of ones importance removes pride and arrogance. Praying together with your spouse exposes both your weaknesses and those of your spouse and this helps you to totally rely on God. Grace is released in the place of prayer to overcome such weaknesses
- Praying together with your spouse teaches you selflessness: Humans are naturally selfish. However, praying together with your spouse teaches you to focus less on yourself and more on your spouse. You do this by thanking and appreciating God for the good qualities in your spouse. It is not a time to start pointing out the things you don’t like in their lives in the name of prayer. No.
- Praying together with your spouse teaches you forgiveness: The bible says in Matthew 6:12 “ And forgive us our trespasses, as we forgive those who trespass against us.” Praying together helps you to release your hurts and let go in prayer. This helps you to easily forgive your spouse and even make room for forgiveness of future offenses
- Praying together with your spouse strengthens the bond of unity in your marriage: There is this popular saying that ‘A family that prays together stays together’ Studies have revealed that praying together can reduce the couples divorce rate to one in one thousand! That’s great!
- Praying together with your spouse helps to manifest positive changes in your marriage: In the place of prayer, you receive instructions which when properly implemented will bring about manifestation of positive changes in your marriage
- Praying together with your spouse strengthens the bond of intimacy and trust in your marriage: Praying together makes you vulnerable to yourselves. This releases grace and favour into your union. Praying together is one of the greatest levels of intimacy couples can enjoy in marriage. It helps you to trust yourselves more knowing that you are working together for a common goal.
- Praying together with your spouse releases tremendous spiritual power into your union: This helps you navigate through the challenges of your marriage with ease because you have already taking charge of the spiritual.
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WHEN YOUR SPOUSE REFUSES TO PRAY WITH YOU:
Some people enter into marriage with various expectations. When those expectations are not being met, they feel disappointed in the marriage. Others get into marriage with the expectation that their spouses will change for better after marriage. In as much as change is a constant aspect of life, nobody has the capacity or ability to change another person. It is not your duty to change your spouse. You don’t need to act as the Holy Spirit in the life of your spouse. The best you can do is to show your partner love and acceptance while you keep praying to God for a positive change in their life.
However, it is understandable that your spouse may not want to pray with you. If this is the case, the following tips will help you.
- Cheerfully invite your spouse to pray with you: Don’t condemn your partner for not praying with you. Also, don’t use nagging to force them to join you in prayer. Instead, cheerfully invite them. If they did not respond positively to your invite the first time, keep inviting them once in a short while and be hopeful that they will join you someday.
- Don’t make the prayer time lengthy at first: Take it easy at first when your partner eventually joins you to pray. You can start with short prayer time of 5 to 10 minutes a day (or lesser as the case may be). Making the prayer time too lengthy from the beginning can bore your partner and discourage them from continuing with you in prayer. However, as you progress in praying together, both of you can gradually increase the prayer time.
- Be sensitive and flexible: Consistency is encouraged. Nonetheless, understand when your partner is highly indisposed to join you in the couple prayer and reschedule.