I think this is the worst of times to be a bachelor, especially since “Assurance” and “Accolades” started trending in Nigeria.
The trending of Assurance and Accolades is not likely to die down anytime soon. The events leading to the trending have different sources.
Assurance started trending when a young Nigerian musician, David Adeleke popularly known as Davido gave his girl friend, Chioma a Porsche car that allegedly cost N45 million Naira as a birthday gift. This attracted diverse reactions from various people especially the youth.
Accolades on the other hand originated from a what can best be termed a crazy display on social media by Charles Okocha aka Igwe Tupac.
Despite their differences [in terms of trending origin, spelling and even meaning], there is a connection between assurance and accolades particularly with respect to relationships.
Assurance attracts accolades! In other words, whoever gives assurance deserves some accolades! Also, some accolades deserving actions may attract assurance.
What constitutes assurance in a relationship?
If you give me all the things money can buy and still cheat on me, neglect me and keep breaking my heart, then I have no assurance in the relationship because I will still be unhappy!
Rather, the assurance I need from you is in form of:
- your unflinching commitment to our relationship
- your faithfulness
- your availability
- your yes being yes
- your genuine efforts
- your sincerity
- your openness
- your acceptance
- your understanding
We may not have all we need. We may not be where we would love to be yet. We may not have all the money and Porsche cars in the world yet. But one thing is sure, and that is my assurance:
That I will always find you by my side, both in plenty and in scarcity.
So I ask you:
What is your assurance in your relationship?