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The Trauma Of Rape And Sexual Assault

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The trauma of rape and sexual assault is grave. During my National Youth Service Corps, (NYSC), back in 2008, I experienced a bit of sexual assault.

It was in Maru L.G.A. of Zamfara  State, my place of primary assignment. I was teaching in the GJSS (Government Junior Secondary School) Maru. On one of the evenings, the sun had already set and it was getting a bit dark.

I was coming back from somewhere and heading back to my lodge, “bar shiga” (female hostel/lodge meaning “No entrance for men”).

As I was passing through a seemingly lonely but long football field of the school, a group of two to three boys, whom I presumed where my students at the GJSS because they should be in their early teens or preteen years approached me and offered to help me carry my handbag that was hanging on my shoulder.

Before I could even politely refuse their help, one of them swiftly squeezed my breast and they ran off.

It happened so fast and I started shouting and running.

Just that squeezing of my breast, through my dress, without even touching the real flesh left me shocked and traumatized for almost all through the remaining months of my NYSC in Zamfara State.

In fact, immediately I ran to my lodge, I told my roommate who was also my good friend. I also called one or two close friends of mine on the phone and told them about the incident. The encouragement I got from them helped me a lot.

That singular incident made me to always startle and quickly respond in self-defensive mode whenever someone comes too close to me without my prior knowledge for the remaining part of my NYSC period. I also dreaded walking through that field alone in the evenings.

All these trauma just because one teenage boy squeezed my breast through my dress!

After that incident, I imagined within me how traumatized raped and sexually assaulted victims would feel.

Report has it that 1 in every 5 women is sexually assaulted while 1 in every 6 men is sexually assaulted too. Yes! It is not only women that are sexually assaulted, men also suffer sexual abuse.

The trauma of rape and sexual assault is something you can hardly describe.

It takes great intervention for victims to fully recover from such assault.

Too Many Rape And Sexual Assault In The Air:

Gone are the days when some places were regarded as sacred places when talking about some crimes. For instance, who would think that pastors and respected religious leaders would be accused of raping and sexually assaulting people, especially their members?

If rape and sexual assault could penetrate the places of worship and religious bodies, then there are no sacred places!

Say “No” To Rape And Sexual Assault:

  1. Rape and sexual assault of minor: There are so many news on the rape and sexual assault of minors and children. We hear and read things like father raping daughter, uncle raping infant and the likes of such appalling and terrible news. It is high time parents and guardians watched where and with whom they keep their children and wards with. In as much as you don’t go about suspecting everybody, you should also not just trust anybody with your young ones. Be very vigilant!
  2. When a man/woman says “No”, he/she means “No”: There is this belief that when a woman says no to sexual advances, that she actually means “yes”. Please, when she says “No”, she means “NO”.
  3. Paying for special favours with sex: When you do someone a favour, especially a vulnerable person like your junior in the office or your employee, don’t ask for sexual favours in return. It is a form of rape and sexual assault. However, if you are asked to pay for special favours with sex, be bold enough to say “No” and mean it. If you loose such favours because you refused to be sexually assaulted, other favours would come. But if you choose to succumb to such pressures, be ready to sustain the favours with more assault.
  4. Speak out if you are assaulted: Enough of victimization and shaming the victim. If you are raped or sexually assaulted, don’t keep it to yourself and bottle it up within you. This will cause more bitterness and self-damage. Rather, speak to the right persons/institutions and get the help you really need. In addition, you could also get justice.

Fighting and winning rape and sexual assault is a collective responsibility.

Let us all come together and fight this rape and sexual assault monster!

Say “NO” to rape and sexual assault!

One Reply to “The Trauma Of Rape And Sexual Assault

  1. Interesting. Sexual assault and rape is deadly both physically and psychologically. Sorry for your horrible experience.

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